say please

In an interview with Autostraddle, Sinclair Sexsmith draws out the power dynamics in queer, BDSM relationships.  Advertisements

when the strong cry

“Everyone will tell you to be stoic. To be strong. That’s what being a top means. To not need comfort, touch, reassurance. You’re harsh, strict, brooding — what would you need with those displays of vulnerability, your soft underbelly?” Sinclair Sexsmith writes for Autostraddle. 

Safeword.

Sinclair Sexsmith, writing for Autostraddle, illustrates the beautiful moments of vulnerability and trust that a safeword can create.