“Through negotiated, temporary, outward vulnerability, I achieve a sense of control and power, both of myself and of my environment.” Nicole Guappone for The Rumpus. Advertisements
In an interview with Autostraddle, Sinclair Sexsmith draws out the power dynamics in queer, BDSM relationships.
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“Everyone will tell you to be stoic. To be strong. That’s what being a top means. To not need comfort, touch, reassurance. You’re harsh, strict, brooding — what would you need with those displays of vulnerability, your soft underbelly?” Sinclair Sexsmith writes for Autostraddle.
Sinclair Sexsmith, writing for Autostraddle, illustrates the beautiful moments of vulnerability and trust that a safeword can create.
“It feels like a relief to be able to own and control.” Sinclair Sexsmith for Autostraddle.
Giving others power over us is an immense act of trust. How do people handle issues of power and consent in relationships? Sinclair Sexsmith for Autostraddle.